What purpose does a funeral
serve?
It is the customary way to
recognize death and its
finality. Funerals are
recognized rituals for the
living to show respect for the
dead and to help survivors begin
the grief process.
What do funeral directors do?
Funeral directors are caregivers
and administrators. They make
the arrangements for
transportation of the body,
complete all necessary
paperwork, and implement the
choices made by the family
regarding the funeral and final
disposition of the body. Funeral
directors are listeners,
advisors and supporters. They
have experience assisting the
bereaved in coping with death.
Funeral directors are trained to
answer questions about grief,
recognize when a person is
having difficulty coping, and
recommend sources of
professional help. Funeral
directors also link survivors
with support groups at the
funeral home or in the
community.
Do you have to have a funeral
director to bury the dead?
In most states, family members
may bury their own dead although
regulations vary. However, most
people find it very trying to be
solely responsible for arranging
the details and legal matters
surrounding a death.
Why have a public viewing?
Viewing is part of many cultural
and ethnic traditions. Many
grief specialists believe that
viewing aids the grief process
by helping the bereaved
recognize the reality of death.
Viewing is encouraged for
children, as long as the process
is explained and the activity
voluntary.
What is the purpose of
embalming?
Embalming sanitizes and
preserves the body, retards the
decomposition process, and
enhances the appearance of a
body disfigured by traumatic
death or illness. Embalming
makes it possible to lengthen
the time between death and the
final disposition, thus allowing
family members time to arrange
and participate in the type of
service most comforting to them.
Does a dead body have to be
embalmed, according to law?
No. Most states, however,
require embalming when death was
caused by a reportable
contagious disease, or when
remains are to be transported
from one state to another by
common carrier or if final
disposition is not to be made
within a prescribed number of
hours.
Isn't burial space becoming
scarce?
While it is true some
metropolitan areas have limited
available cemetery space, in
most areas of the country, there
is enough space set aside for
the next 50 years without
creating new cemeteries. In
addition, land available for new
cemeteries is more than
adequate, especially with the
increase in entombment and
multi-level grave burial.
Is cremation a substitute for a
funeral?
No, cremation is an alternative
to earth burial or entombment
for the body's final disposition
and often follows a traditional
funeral service. In fact,
according to FTC figures for
1987, direct cremation occurred
in only 3% of deaths.
Why are funerals so expensive?
When compared to other major
life cycle events, like births
and weddings, funerals are not
expensive. A wedding costs at
least three times as much; but
because it is a happy event,
wedding costs are rarely
criticized. A funeral home is a
24-hour, labor-intensive
business, with extensive
facilities (viewing rooms,
chapels, limousines, hearses,
etc.), these expenses must be
factored into the cost of a
funeral. Moreover, the cost of a
funeral includes not only
merchandise, like caskets, but
the services of a funeral
director in making arrangements;
filing appropriate forms;
dealing with doctors, ministers,
florists, newspapers and others;
and seeing to all the necessary
details. Contrary to popular
belief, funeral homes are
largely family-owned with a
modest profit margin. The
statistics below may be helpful
in assessing the true economic
picture of a funeral home:
Family-owned
85%
Firm in business for
63 years
Average calls/year
167
BEFORE tax profit
11.3%
(Source: 1995 NFDA Survey of
Funeral Home Operations)
What recourse does a consumer
have for poor service or
overcharging?
Funeral service is regulated by
the FTC and state licensing
boards. In most cases, the
consumer should discuss problems
with the funeral director first.
If the dispute cannot be solved
by talking with the funeral
director, the consumer may wish
to contact the Funeral Service
Consumer Assistance Program.
FSCAP provides information,
mediates disputes, provides
arbitration, and maintains a
consumer guarantee fund for
reimbursement of services
rendered. (To contact FSCAP,
call 708-827-6337 or
800-662-7666).
Do funeral directors take
advantage of the bereaved?
Funeral directors are caring
individuals who help people deal
with a very stressful time. They
serve the same families 80% of
the time, and many have spent
most of their lives in the same
community. If they took
advantage of bereaved families,
they could not stay in business.
The fact that the average
funeral home has been in
business over 59 years shows
that most funeral directors
respect the wishes of the
bereaved families.
Is it right to make a profit
from death?
Funeral directors look upon
their profession as a service,
but it is also a business. Like
any business, funeral homes must
make a profit to exist. As long
as the profit is reasonable and
the services rendered are
necessary, complete, and
satisfactory to the family,
profit is legitimate.
Don't funeral directors mark
caskets up tremendously, at
least 400%?
No. Talking about the mark up on
caskets is really not the point.
Most items (clothing, furniture,
jewelry) are marked up as much
or more than caskets. The real
question is whether the funeral
director is making an excessive
profit, And that answer is "No."
Profits run around 12.5% before
taxes - not excessive by any
standard.
Who pays for funerals for the
indigent?
Other than the family, there are
veteran, union, and other
organizational benefits to pay
for funerals, including, in
certain instances, a lump sum
death payment from Social
Security. In most states, some
form of public aid allowances
are available from either the
state, county, or city or a
combination. Most funeral
directors are aware of the
various benefits and know how to
obtain them for the indigent.
However, funeral directors often
absorb costs above and beyond
what is provided by agencies to
insure the deceased a
respectable burial.
What should I do if the death
occurs in the middle of the
night or on the weekend?
Most Funeral Directors are
available 24 hours a day, seven
days a week.
Will someone come right away?
If you request immediate
assistance, yes. If the family
wishes to spend a short time
with the deceased to say
good-bye, it's acceptable. They
will come when your time is
right.
If a loved one dies out of
state, can the local Funeral
Home still help?
Yes, they can assist you with
out-of-state arrangements,
either to transfer the remains
to another state or from another
state.
So, I've decided on cremation.
Can I still have a funeral or a
viewing?
Yes, quite often some sort of
viewing precedes the actual
cremation. Your Funeral Home can
assist you with the necessary
information for a funeral with a
cremation following or a
memorial service.
What government agencies help
defray final expenses?
Usually, Funeral Directors will
help gather the necessary
information to apply for
financial assistance from Social
Security, Veteran's, retirements
and any others.